New Year, New Mummy?


Will 2014 be the year that I achieve the only thing that I really want: to be the best mum I can be? And will my kids notice the difference?
No More Mrs Mumbot
I’ve stopped thinking about being a mum. Somewhere between picking Weetabix splats off the floor with my bare hands, making the last baby wipe last through a messy change and finding the right Octonauts episode with the wrong remote, just being a mum took over. A mother on auto-pilot – or a mumbot, if you will.  But in this ultimate “time for reflection”, I am resolving that I need, and want, to do more than just get through the day. I want to be a better mum.
The Resolution That Keeps On Giving
This is not a new resolve. I make it every night after another three-hour bedtime marathon. I think it every morning when I wake up. And I think it many times a day in between. I hope I’m not the only one – I’m not, right? 
Do What I Do, Only Nicer
It’s not so much my performance that’s the problem, it’s my presentation. It’s not my ability, it’s my attitude. I’ve got the practical stuff down – feeding, clothing, bathing, exercising. I read to them, I praise them, I use descriptive praise, I cuddle them – boy, do I cuddle them. I get them where they need or want to be within 60 seconds of the required time. I’d just like to do all that without the shouty bits. Cook lunch when I’ve only just finished clearing up snacktime? Sure! Get the playdoh out just after I’ve swept the floor? You betcha, honey! Spilt milk on the new sofa again – well, silly mummy for giving it to you sitting there. The number of times I’ve cried over spilt milk – why, it makes a mockery of the phrase! I know it’s no use, but I just can’t help it sometimes.
How To Become Mummy 2.0
Be nicer. Be more prepared. Be cheerier. Not too much to ask, then. These lofty goals need breaking down – I need strategies! But parenting manuals are like when I read about a new diet regime: I think “Mmm, that’s a good idea, I’ll remember that”, then within seconds – gone. Also, the only period that I’ve had time to read such tomes is when I was pregnant with my first, when all I could think about was, ‘How am I going to get this baby’s head out of there?’, and everything else could wait. So hurrah for the blogosphere: short, snappy parent-y stuff – with pictures! Get your sentient parenting tips a-ready, parent bloggers, for I shall be trawling your sites for inspiration – or even better, point me to your wise words in a comment below.
Will The Kids Even Notice?
This is a resolution with no tangible means of measurement. Although my husband might be keen on a new model, I’m not sure the kids really care. Will they notice that we’re leaving the house in plenty of time, with all our stuff loaded up in one calm go, without mummy sweating and suppressing naughty words in the driver’s seat? Will they notice that their tea was part of a week’s menu plan? Will they notice that their pants came from their own drawer and are the correct size? Probably not. But I will. Yes, I know that I am the best mummy that my kids can have, but I am not going to rest on those comfortable laurels. This year I am going to try my hardest. I am going to be the best mum I can be. And it doesn’t matter if my kids notice or not, as long as they are happy. I might even get them doing craft.

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